EDITORIAL COMMENT: Here's an article that highlights the importance of good communications in all relationships. However these tips are very general and work best to improve an existing relationship before they fail and the partners suffer a break up. Many communication coaches DO NOT tell you that! The techniques here pinpoint exactly the communication techniques you need to use after a breakup to rescue your relationship and get ex back.
These include:
1) The Instant Reconnect Technique
2) Disastrous mistakes to avoid
3) Simple steps to get you back together
Original Title:The Importance of Communication in Relationships, Love, and Romance
By Joshua Uebergang
You have heard communication is important for relationships, romance, and love. Well, I take this a step further. Communication is the relationship. Communication connects people. You can do neither when communication is nonexistent.
How do you maintain or build a strong relationship when you fail to communicate? You cannot. Just as a bridge connects two adjacent objects together, so does our verbal and nonverbal messages connect two people because a relationship literally means the shared connection. Long distance relationships often fail because of a lack of connection, but they can work because the two persons connect and communicate with one another (either that, or their previous connection was so strong it keeps them together).
Now you know that communication is the relationship, there are many other surprising benefits in improving your communication. Most days we talk with people about shallow or logical issues. These can be discussions about what happened at work, what chores need to be done, and that stupid coworker who keeps annoying you. While intimacy can arise from talking about this, because the mere act of communication connects people, you will be more intimate when the two of you converse on topics related more strongly to your emotions.
You'll be surprised at how much you love relationships and love life when you learn to talk about things you or the other person have an emotional attachment to. You don't necessarily have to talk about passions and ambitions because you can also have an emotional attachment to problems and pain. Discussing these darker aspects with a spouse, family member, and - dare I mention - your boss will connect the two of you together when each party is open.
EDITORIAL COMMENT: After a breakup you will not have the day to day contact that's assumed above. In fact, initially, you need to put space between yourself and your ex (the reasons for this are fully explained at the How To Get Your Ex Back blog) and when you eventually do make contact again it's vital that you know exactly what to say and do. Once again this is fully explained at the How To Get Your Ex Back Blog.
Humans are creatures desperately wanting to be understood. A crying toddler wants to be understood. An angry manager wants to be understood. A silent spouse wants to be understand. Though it is difficult to see people's need to be understood, when you empathetically connect with them through communication, you see that need and build a strong relationship with them.
Acknowledging the importance of communication is the first step to harnessing its power. Once you see its importance, you will start improving how you communicate. You will start searching for tips and pieces of advice. You will even start talking to people about this near magical process that is the relationship.
The last piece of advice I want to give you is to encourage you to continually learn how to communicate for a better relationship. Whether you learn from me or another expert is not as big of a concern for me as wanting you to improve that area of your life because communication forms your relationships.
Joshua Uebergang, aka "Tower of Power", is an Australian relationship-communication coach, author, and owner of Tower of Power. Visit his blog and sign-up free to get communication techniques and skills, relationship-boosting strategies, and life-building tips by email, along with blog updates, and more! Go now to TowerOfPower.com.au
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